Lessons 2014 Taught Me

Lessons 2014 Taught Me

By Tiana Whitely

Life has an interesting way of teaching you things. 2014 was a year full of lessons for me. As I graduated high school, prepared for college, and experienced living in another state, I was overwhelmed with how life, and for a lack of better words, “lectures it’s lesson plan.” What do I mean by that? Life has a way of teaching without words. Your experiences are filled with lessons, but you can only catch it if you pay attention.

The latter end of my high school experience brought me Lesson #1: Hard Work.

I thought that my last semester of senior year would be a breeze. I was in for a rude awakening. Creating a senior research project was the hardest task throughout my high school curriculum, and to think it was an open ended project. This was the final task needed in order to complete my credits. I worked harder than I ever have in order to finish my final stretch of high school with a bang. Sometimes as humans, we get complacent toward the end of a thing. I wasn’t given that opportunity… If I wanted that diploma, I had to push through to get it.

Preparing for college brought me Lesson #2: Resources Are Your Friend.

You never really understand what you need or don’t have until it is time to leave for college. Between applying for scholarships, working to save money, and actually buying all the necessities, learning how to navigate on my own; resources become your best friend. The gift card that you didn’t use for Christmas… The small graduation monies… People willing to help out… It all becomes useful and important. The smallest resource can help in a big way. You just have to take the step to utilize what is available to you.

Living on my own taught me Lesson #3: Responsibility.

Responsibility in high school is baby work compared to college. Mom and dad are no longer there to take care of you. You have to make decisions based upon what’s best for you, not what’s fun or entertaining. Some weekends, you can’t go out. The pair of shoes you wanted will have to wait because you need to buy food. Sometimes when you need people the most, they disappear. At that point, you learn to invent what you don’t have, make decisions without helpful advice, and make your own solutions. This is a time when you step out of adolescence and truly become independent.

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Tiana Whitely
@CutiePiee_ | idiosyncraticdash.wordpress.com

4 Lessons I Learned In 2014

4 Lessons I Learned In 2014

Congratulations! It’s 2015. You’re probably wondering why I said congratulations… The things you’re about to walk into, accomplish, start, and do… You’ll need someone to say congratulations and that they are proud of you. Because everyone won’t. 2015 is the year of Divine Opportunity. It’s the year connections will fall into your lap. It’s the year that those dreams you think about all day, but you think you can’t accomplish because you’re too young, will start coming into fruition.

I learned so much in 2014, from relationships to friendships to business. It was a year of successes and growth, but also one of hurt and lessons learned. Here are a few pointers:

1. BE YOU! It’s so easy to play the comparison game with those around us and even those who we see on social networks. Their social network is their highlight reel. You will only see the amazing parts of their lives. You won’t see the nights they stayed on their knees for hours crying because they were being attacked by friends, family, and foes. You won’t see the lonely nights because their “bae” is acting up, you just see their cute pictures on Instagram with the matching outfits. So live and enjoy YOUR life. It’s okay to admire, but don’t try to live their life. Because who will live yours? The purpose that God has placed inside of you is just waiting to be birthed — so when are you going to push out that purpose baby!

2. Everyone won’t support you. Sometimes the people that you think will come thru and support you — won’t. People will say they are coming to your events, make excuses, not support your blog, not support your speaking, and ultimately not support your dreams. But it’s okay. What and who God has for you — is all for you. Don’t even be mad. It’s not that they aren’t good people, they just aren’t meant for this season of your life. Accept that, don’t be mad, just be thankful for what God revealed.

3. Every guy or girl you meet will not be the one. Relationships will either end in marriage or a breakup. Get to know people for who they are. And with that, be observant. Often times we become angry and shocked because we ignored the warning signs early. We ignored the controlling things they did like trying to tell us what to wear and where not to go. We ignored the fact that they don’t love God or want to go to church. Believe them when they portray it the first time. Don’t get too attached too soon. It’s okay to take it slow.

4. Get into your Word. The Bible is your manual. If you take the time to really read it, I promise you that you will see how it correlates to your life. Get the right version for you. Whether it’s KJV, the Message, or New Living Translation. Perhaps even a study Bible that will allow you to really divulge into the Word on a more relatable level. Listen to worship music, pray daily, do whatever you need to in order to get closer to Him. He wants your WHOLE heart—not just two hours with you on Sunday morning or Wednesdays nights for Bible Study. He wants to be your everything, you just have to let Him in.

I’m praying that 2015 will be a year of total success for you. You may see friends walk away, but you’ll see new people come in. You may see things change, but change can be good. This year, I’m praying that you “know yourself, know your worth.” That you don’t settle, even when you’re lonely. That you dream beyond the limits people place for you. I’m praying that you seek Him harder than you seek anything else. And that you exceed beyond your expectations.

I love you and so does He,

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Cherise McAdoo
@LadyAmbitious_ | ladyambitious.wordpress.com